"The healing power of this book comes from stating simple truths and acknowledging what is without pretenses or masks... John Payne highlights how hidden loyalties and our need to be right are at the heart of many of life's challenges and how the stories we create are the cause of much illusion, pain and dysfunction in our lives. His refreshing take on forgiveness will take you on a journey where judgement will fall away and being authentic to who you are will once more come to the fore, relieving the burden of guilt, shame, resentment and anger."
Iyanla Vanzant, author of
Living through the Meantime
Transgenerational Healing and Family Constellations
182 pages paperback, illustrated
This book's perspective on healing will expand the reader's vision, beyond the scope of healing as a purely individual and personal matter, to one that spans generations in its scope, crosses racial and cultural barriers and sheds new light on the relationships between victims and perpetrators, be they from governments and regimes, wars, sexual abuse or crime.
Payne's "Orders of Love" describe a natural pattern that has been observed in the practice of Family Constellations--namely, that there is a distinct order stating who belongs and who does not belong, not only in a family system, but also in larger groups such as nations. With its many examples and stories, Payne's book brings back into belonging those who have been excluded and bridges the gap between the healing of an individual and the healing of family, ethnic and national souls.
