256 pages paperback

“God would prefer me dead than I have another gay thought.”

Hopelessness is what gay Christians feel when they are told that they must be “straight” to gain God’s acceptance. No matter how hard they try – presenting an outward heterosexual artifice, passionless marriages, celibacy, exorcism, prayer – they still, deep down, feel like inauthentic failures to such a degree that some have committed suicide. The people who are responsible for this outrage are part of a cult-like, 30 year-old “Ex-Gay” movement now hidden behind the misleading appellation “Reparative Therapy.” No matter what psychological dressings they hang on their outward identity, this fundamentalist extremity of Christianity always has the same agenda: because God has told them that homosexuality is a sickness and a sin, the movement has assumed that flipping from gay to straight is possible and change-worthy, despite decades of psycho/sexual research to the contrary.

Jallen Rix, as a young Southern Baptist, joined an ex-gay ministry when he discovered his same-sex attractions. Although the ministry did not make him heterosexual, it did manage to destroy any sense of stability and self-esteem. Ex-Gay No Way is Dr. Rix’s journey through the ex-gay world and what he did in the aftermath to reintegrate positive sexuality with healthy spirituality. Further, he demonstrates that the tactics used in these oppressive environments are many of the same damaging schemes used everywhere in power-abusive religious organizations today.

“Leave behind the trappings of abusive religion found in the fallacy of the ex-gay movement. If you have ever wanted practical, yet personal steps to integrating authentic spirituality with gay sexuality, Jallen’s book is your guide.”
—The Rev. Elder Troy Perry, Founder, Metropolitan Community Churches

“Dr. Jallen Rix’s fearless honesty in sharing his personal journey – of moving out of the abusive setting of many churches that promote the “ex-gay” ethos – will be a tremendous encouragement to many gay Christians who are beginning to contemplate that journey for themselves. He is gentle and respectful towards those who would passionately disagree with him, yet rightly determined to expose what is wrong with so much of the anti-gay hype in today’s world. His story is going to be an invaluable tool for a great many — to help them begin to recognize what is in fact serious abuse, not the pursuit of godliness.”
—Jeremy Marks, Courage, U.K., Ex-gay Survivor

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