Exploding common myths about love that drive us crazy

In this entertaining and thought-provoking book, Tim presents a revolutionary new way of looking at our relationships and why they can be so problematic — and then he goes on to offer some refreshing, new advice as to what we can do about it.

The book’s basic premise is that most of us believe in a wide range of myths about men and women, love and relationships that we have never questioned. It is our unquestioned belief in these myths that confuses us and makes us unhappy in our relationships. To help readers understand the power of myths in our lives, Tim identifies some of our most common “relationship myths”. And then he shows us how we can free ourselves from them. The result is much greater clarity, joy and love in our relationships.

Some of the myths Tim unveils are:

• A relationship can only work if you compromise
• I need a partner to be happy
• My happiness is dependent on my partner
• If you love me, youʼll do what I want
• I’m more selfish than my partner if I donʼt do what my partner wants
• I know what is best for my partner
• It’s better to be in a relationship than to be single
• Strong sexual attraction means weʼre a good match

Tim Ray is a popular relationship columnist and blogger, and has appeared in relationship programs on TV, been a guest lecturer at couples’ therapy school, and has a private counselling practice. He calls his work “Getting Real” and by this he means how to live a happy life by waking up to the nature of reality and the way the mind works. "Mythbusting" is an important part of this process in which Tim helps people identify and investigate the thoughts and beliefs that make them unhappy.